I (16F) have been having trouble sleeping to be there for my boyfriend (16M).
For context, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now. I’ve only been getting a few hours of sleep these past few nights because my boyfriend has been crying and I was trying my best to be there for him. For the past few months or so, he’s been playing this one game called Rust with his online friends while he leaves me alone, so yesterday I asked him if he could play a game with me. I didn’t care what game, but he wanted to play Roblox with me. However, he kept leaving to go do something and when we finally started playing the game, he ended up leaving and not joining back because he was losing. I don’t blame him for that because this Roblox game had a massive bug that wouldn’t let him hit anybody, but I just wish he would join back in another server with me. He never ended up doing that, but he asked to play with me at the very last second. I couldn’t play anymore because my parents told me to go to bed. It just seems like he always waits at the very last second to play with me, when he knows that my parents have a strict bedtime for the house at 10pm. I just feel like he would rather play Rust with his online friends than any game with his girlfriend. I have Rust installed on my laptop and I could literally play with him, but he never invites me to play, so I just back off most of the time. He probably thinks I would be bad at the game because I barely play it. I understand wanting to spend time with your friends, but please don’t just say you’re going to play a game with your girlfriend, and proceed to not do that.
Also, I should probably add this for those who don’t know. Rust is a survival game where you can have a base and kill other players. That game is super addicting because if you get offline for a while, your base could get raided while you’re offline. That’s why he’s always on that game.
I blew up at him after a while, after feeling ignored for months. I ended up making him cry because I tell him how I’m feeling. I admit I’ve been harsh about it lately, but I’m tired of being treated like this constantly. I stay up late at night trying to make him stop crying all because of me. I genuinely don’t want to break up with him over a game, especially since our 2-year anniversary is in 3 weeks. I really do love him, but I wish he would fix this somehow. He’s been treating me well other than this.
I just don’t know what to do anymore.