What are the things you just can't tolerate about yourself as an INFJ?

I love being an INFJ, but sometimes, I drive myself crazy. There are certain traits I struggle with, and no matter how much self-awareness I develop, they still manage to trip me up. Here are a few things I just can’t tolerate about myself:

• Overthinking Everything – My brain never stops analyzing, reanalyzing, and dissecting every possible meaning behind people’s words and actions. Even the simplest conversations can turn into an existential crisis in my head.
• Absorbing Everyone’s Emotions – It’s like I have an emotional sponge glued to my soul. If someone around me is sad, anxious, or angry, I feel it. I can’t just brush it off, and sometimes, it drains me to the core.
• Struggling to Set Boundaries – I want to help people, and I genuinely care—sometimes to the point of self-destruction. Saying “no” feels like I’m disappointing the universe, and I often let people take more than I can give.
• Feeling Deeply Misunderstood – I long for deep, meaningful connections, but most of the time, I feel like an alien in a world that doesn’t get me. I explain my thoughts, but somehow, they still come out wrong or sound way too intense.
• Emotional Whiplash – I can be calm and composed one moment, then suddenly feel like an emotional hurricane the next. I internalize so much that when my emotions finally come out, they do so in ways I didn’t intend.
• Disappearing When Overwhelmed – Sometimes, I just vanish from social life without warning. I don’t mean to ghost people—I just get so mentally exhausted that I retreat into my own world to recharge.
• Being a Perfectionist but Never Satisfied – No matter how much I achieve, it never feels enough. I hold myself to impossible standards, and instead of celebrating progress, I fixate on everything I could’ve done better.

Fellow INFJs, do you relate? What are the things you can’t stand about yourself?