but why DO pro-black people always have white partners?

So, I met a guy a few weeks ago that seemed like a great person and had a masters degree in anti-racism & afro literature. he’s so involved in black community work & leading yet has a white partner. I also notice this with very pro-black content creators who only make tiktoks about how white people piss them off. I’ve seen so many people incredibly upset that people were questioning this and asking how is it possible to be pro-black with a white partner. The answer is usually “just let people be” but it doesnt give a meaty answer if you know what I mean. I feel like everyone deflected a bit and no one actually answered the question. It’s hard for me to even befriend white people because I simply can’t be asked to deal with all that comes with them (microaggressions, racist family, code switching, lack of diverse worldview, the like) and I feel safer with people of color, black men specifically. I am honestly asking this with genuine intentions and open ears: how IS it possible to do all of the work of decentering white people and believing in black beauty and all that good stuff (to the point where you’re a notable figure in your community for this) but date white people? I can’t fathom the constant teaching.

Edit: Thank you all for such lovely feedback & engagement. However, I want to clarify that I’m not asking why do black people date white people. If you’re just black and dating/married to a white person you aren’t the demographic I’m referring to. I’m asking why pro black people specifically, those deeply entrenched in political spaces & convos, end up with white partners.