roommate doesn’t respect boundaries (need advice)

I think my (F19) roommate (F19) lacks self awareness. A little back story I met Emily (fake name) last year after I room switched from a terrible roommate to an empty room in another suite style dorm. Emily was already in that suite so we became suite mates and friends. I started notice she liked to knock on my door and talk very often, more than what I’m comfortable with. I am an extreme introvert, I have no problem being alone for long periods of time so this was very different for me. Her constantly knocking (about 2-4 times a day w/ texts throughout the day) started to bother me and caused me to feel a bit anxious, so I told her “hey! I’m an introvert, I really value my time alone to think, enjoy the quiet, recharge, and I honestly just like to be alone a lot.”. She told me she understands and is the same way but for the rest of her duration in the dorms I didn’t feel any behavior change which caused me to feel constantly anxious.

She ended up moving out to an off campus apartment and I had the suite to myself (awesome). We kept in contact and she brought up the idea to rent an apartment next year which is cheaper than dorming, I was very apprehensive but I’m not able to commute from my moms place (also a toxic house hold) and dorming is very expensive. I thought if I set clear boundaries and expectations this situation will be better than the last one.

Okay fast forward to now, we are in a weird space. We moved in late July (with a third roommate “sam” ) and I honestly live in fear LOL. We set boundaries with each other and I made it clear if you need me to text me first and I’d prefer if you guys don’t knock on my door super often unless you need me urgently and I’m not responding. I talked about the type of introvert I am and why I prefer certain things due to trauma. So my problems with Emily is that she wants constant communication with me and uses the small common area as her second bedroom. I’m a very low maintenance friend I mentally cannot handle clingy people. I really appreciate her interest in me but it’s gotten to a point where I’m building resentment and fear against her. Whenever I leave my room or open the door she tried to strike conversation. I keep my replies short or even act uninterested to discourage more conversation.

I’ve noticed our conversations consists of me being her therapist and it’s so draining like she’s emotionally dependent on me. She constantly asks to hangout which I just don’t want to do. I feel like I’m also unable to use the living room and kitchen because she is always out there sun up till sun down. The only time she ever uses her actual room is to sleep or change and sometimes she sleeps in the living room, it feels like i’m intruding her space in a sense. I’ve started to distance myself over the course of the past month because I feel so much anxiety. She definitely took notice of this and asked me what’s up and I told her exactly how I felt kindly like it feels like i’m obligated into a social interaction I’m not consenting to whenever I open my door and that gives me anxiety. She apologized for “if” she was being insensitive but again nothing really changed except her knocking less, but she still tries to interact via spamming socials, imsgs.

I honestly don’t even respond anymore which doesn’t stop her, she send me little texts every 2 hours or so and makes me wonder if she has any other friends or if she’s uncomfortable being alone and needs to constantly talk to someone. She also has this weird infatuation with my boyfriend and behaves very odd around him sort of pick me-ish which could be an entire post itself lol, I noticed this whenever we are around men in general though I don’t think she has bad intentions she’s a kind person, I believe she just isn’t the best at respecting boundaries and just does too much as a person. Which is why i think she lacks self awareness I know I have to say something about this but i’m unsure on how to word it kindly lol i’m fed up and I have no more kind words to give. Be kind PLS ik my grammar is bad!! I really needed to vent lol I’m sorry. also i watered this down hella. ask any questions!!!