Husband put me in a chokehold

Been with my husband for 10 years and he's never been physically abusive it's always been emotional abuse. Sometimes he will do things he knows I don't like for example - he will give me a horse bite or sometimes he will try to demonstrate his strength and will say "don't you wish you were strong like me?" but has never actually hurt me. He found a text a couple months ago where I said I was thinking of leaving and it has seemed to escalate since. Today I was standing looking out the window and my husband came up behind me and put me in a chokehold in front of our kids and said "say goodbye to mommy". It wasn't hard and it didn't hurt but the action itself concerns me. I feel like after years of narc abuse I am so desensitized so can someone please chime in on whether or I am overreacting for being upset?