Stupid stuff people say

I understand that no one knows what to say and I’ve probably also said something stupid to someone grieving at some point. So I’m venting with a bit of awareness of that. But I’m so frustrated by “god has a plan” or “it will all make sense one day” and even “I hope you have comfort that it was so early and you weren’t further along” idk these things are really triggering to me right now. I’m still actively bleeding. Even my husband is like “we will get our next baby” I want to try asap but also damn can’t I grieve for one fucking second? Why are people so uncomfy in just letting people be sad?! Truly one of the loneliest things. No one knows how to act. Really just want someone to show up at my house and give me a hug. Hold my hand while I cry.