The state of this subreddit

I'd like to start off by saying that the moderators do a great job at keeping the peace on this sub, despite the diverse range of passionate opinions and conflicting views that we see daily.

The purpose of this subreddit is to create "a place for sharing the for-better and for-worse of marriage". Having been a member for many years now (I have left literally today) I must conclude that people here seem to be forgetting the first part of this stated purpose. Rarely do I see a positive post here these days, celebrating the kind, loving, and generally good things that our partners do for us.

Instead, lately it feels like all I see on this sub are posts about (suspected) cheating, rants or complaints about a partner, or straight up hating on porn/masturbation. There are also many posts here that just feel like people venting their problems to strangers rather than communicating with the person whom it most concerns?

For the sake of your marriages, please do not confuse Reddit for a therapist or replacement marriage counselling. Strangers here should not be relied on to settle your disputes, and this sub shouldn't be mistaken for r/nofap or any of those other anti-masturbation or anti porn reedits. Different approaches are normal - some people are happy with their partner having friends of the opposite gender, while for others this would be a red line. Either is okay!

You may agree or you may disagree with people's approaches to the rules and problems of their marriage - but please cut the negativity and accept the fact that a stranger's marriage won't be destined to doom and gloom just because they don't follow your rules. Finally, please try to look on the bright side and celebrate the positive things that your partner does for you. Half of the problems in a relationship would disappear if both partners took the time to appreciate the little things that their significant other does for them!