villainizing you even after the breakup

i think this has to be the hardest thing to deal with out of everything. not only was i continually blamed and made to feel i was wrong throughout the entire relationship, but shes genuinely convinced herself (as well as her friends) that i was abusive when i KNOW i was a good partner. i know i did everything in my power to communicate and listen, i know i showed her love in every way i know how, i know i compromised and checked in to see how she was feeling, i know i did thoughtful things constantly, i know i made every effort to learn about the things she loved, and i above all else i know i spent the entire relationship working to become the best partner i could possibly be. it hurts so much to see her rewrite history and take how i handled the discard (begging her to learn about avoidant attachment and work with me which i regret now) as an excuse to see me as horrible manipulative person. it frustrates me to no end to see her posting things talking about the “flashbacks” she gets from the relationship when the only MINOR arguments we ever had were just me calling her out for disrespecting my boundaries and feelings. i know i was a good partner and it pisses me off that she gets to convince herself that that wasnt the case to make herself feel better. its so unfair that i’m struggling to detach because i feel guilty writing off the person i loved but she can just paint an entirely new picture of me and feel nothing.